The Corporate World

Have you ever worked for a company that didn't care about anything but making a DOLLAR? I understand that when you start a business the goal is to bring in an income and most people who start businesses do it so that they can be financially well off so I am not mad at that. However the thing that pisses me off  the most about some of these companies is that they don't care about their employees. The employees are the ones making that company function daily so owners need to understand that without those employees their business wouldn't be as successful as it is. I feel most of them think they are only doing us a favor by giving us jobs but it works both ways. Its a give and take on both ends.

I worked for a company as a hairstylist, when I first got hired I explained to them that I had a knee injury so I couldn't work long hours and I couldn't work multiple days stacked back to back. I was completely honest and they told me that it wouldn't be an issue but a few month later they started making me work 10 hour shifts, they started making me work 10-14 days in a row without a day off. It got really bad and my knee would swell and if I asked for a day off to rest it or asked to go home a few hours early to rest it they said no. At one point I sent them a picture of my right leg swollen 2 times the normal size and asked if I could stay home because I couldn't put pressure on it and they told  me that if I didn't come in I would be fired. So, lets just say I worked that shift in severe pain and my client had to catch me because I literally fell on him. I love doing hair and it is my passion so I don't want to give it up and I shouldn't have too. My whole point of being honest and upfront about my knee was so I can still do what I love without suffering in pain everyday but that didn't work. I had to make a choice between my health and my career so I left.

I just feel that if you have an employee who works hard, has great customer service and love what they do why not accommodate them. I also remember being with this same company in 2011 when 2 tornadoes hit in one day while I was at work. The windows were shaking and all kinds of stuff was flying around so we called the GM to let her know that we were having a tornado but she seemed more concerned about that damn dollar! When asked if we could go home she replied "NO." and I had to stay. I never felt so low in my life because I had no way of knowing whether my husband and kids were OK all I knew was I chose work over them because I didn't want to lose my job. Thank god we all were safe because if not I wouldn't have been able to forgive myself.

I understand as an employer and employee the goal is MONEY but that doesn't mean you can treat your team like they are robots. You as the owner need to make sure your team is well taken care of so that they can preform to the best of their abilities. It is a team effort for sure and it starts with the CAPTAIN. Owners remember where you came from and understand that your employees are vital to your company and that you need them just as much as you THINK they need you!

People Suck!

Why can't people just be nice anymore? People truly SUCK these days. It seem everyone is so hateful and have no regards or respect for human life. Its sad that we are living in a time where people SUCK. I have seen the things people do to others just out of jealousy and it SUCKS. Hey, don't think for one second it has to be something so great that causes someone to be jealous and envious because it could be over the smallest stuff and you would never know. People who set out to intentionally cause harm to others SUCK! If you get some kind of sick satisfaction out of seeing someone suffer you SUCK!

People seems so bitter now in days and family don't seem to exist anymore. What happened to the good old days? Why have people become so hateful? Well personally I think it's because people stopped inviting God into their homes. I feel that we think we can handle life and its lessons on our own and we can't. How can we lead our families if we aren't right ourselves. I am guilty of feeling like I don't need God in my life and also wondering if all of it is real. I too questioned God at one point but because of my own personal experience I learned to seek a relationship with God for myself. He humbled me. I was at rock bottom and had no choice but to look up. He had my full attention and because I had nobody and no distractions I was able to go to him with my whole heart. I am a witness to why it is vital to keep God first because if you don't you have a good chance of becoming one of those people who SUCK.

I have heard people say that they would sleep with a married man or woman and not feel bad. I have witnessed people have their kids taken away by DCF because someone made a false report out of anger. I have seen people lie just to make themselves look better. I have seen people get other people fired out of jealousy. I know people who have been murdered by someone they thought was their friend. I have seen family that have robbed and steal from other family. I have witnessed families who sleep around with each others boyfriends or girlfriends and try to break up relationships because they are envious, I have seen family offer to give a place to stay then throw you out for no reason. I have seen a lot and it is truly sad that this is what the world has become. What happened to the LOVE? When did it become so normal for people to SUCK?

I DON'T KNOW ABOUT YOU BUT I REFUSE TO BE THE TYPE OF  PERSON WHO SUCK!!!

-Love always SunShyne B.

Strength In a Marriage

I have been married going on 9 years this October. We met each other at ages 16 and 19 at a house party. He lived 2 hours away so nothing really came of it until 4 years later after we both had been through terrible relationships. I came into the situation with a 3 month old son and he didn't have any children of his own but his ex had a daughter that he absolutely adored. We didn't put a title on our relationship in the beginning we just let it flow which I think helped take the pressure off both of us. I had my own place and "friends" and he still at this point lived 2 hours away with 2 females so maybe us not putting a title was our crazy way of protecting our hearts. I caught myself not wanting to hang with my so called "friends" anymore and when someone would approach me asking for my number I started saying no. I knew then that he was what I wanted. We dated for for 3 months before we introduced each other to our families. My family was up first for Thanksgiving in 2002 we showed up to the house and sat down at the table to eat when I noticed my mother's husband looking confused. I turned my head around the room to find that everyone had that look including my mother. I guess he didn't noticed everyone staring at him because he was too busy shoveling food into his mouth. So finally he looks up and notices everyone staring at him and says "What?" and my mother's husband with his heavy Jamaican accent says "Him clear mon, him clear!". I'm sure he had know idea what my mother's husband was talking about but we sure did. He looks at me in confusion and asks "what?" again so then I translated for him. I simply told him that everyone is shocked that he is white. He said "you didn't tell them" and I replied Nooooo! After we all laughed we had a great time.


Then that Christmas it was his turn I met his family and they seemed really nice. I must admit it was very different from what I was use too but I enjoyed seeing the closeness of family but there was that same awkwardness in the air the only difference is nobody broke the ice and said anything so it remained awkward for the rest of the night. I have to admit it made me feel a little out of place so I was ready to go home. I knew it had to be a shock for both families and more so for his because I came with a child who is completely African American so I know his family had all kinds of questions that they couldn't wait to ask when I left. Time goes by and things are great and we move in together but neither one of us had jobs that were worth much I was making $7.00 and that meant I was the so called bread winner of the household and he told me that as a man he wanted better for his family so he wanted to move back to where he came from to get his old job back so he could provide for his "family" and as hard as it was to put that 2 hour distance back between us I knew it had to be done. He moved back and that's when things got a little crazy. I was attacked in my home by my child's biological father and had to get an restraining order against him because I was in fear of my life. The next month came and I didn't get my period so I was immediately devastated. My boyfriend knew about the attack because he was on the phone when it happened so when I made the heart wrenching phone call to tell him that I didn't get my period that there was a possibility that I could be pregnant by my ex because he had forced himself on me that night. We were both very devastated and he told me to take the test and that we would deal with whatever we need it to once we knew for sure. Well I tell you god is great because after 3 pregnancy test I got my period late and was not pregnant. I was happy I wasn't pregnant but I still felt worthless.


I went through a terrible depression and developed paranoia after the attack. It was very straining on our relationship but we stayed together. Then one day after I found an apartment where he lived, we were driving 2 hours to bring him a pillow so he could sleep the apartment until moving day when I had to pull over and threw up figuring it was just a stomach bug I continued on my journey. One month later I felt not so good again so I told him I was pregnant he asked how I knew without taking a test. I laughed and said because I know my body. He wasn't excited and it hurt a little but then I found out the girl he was with before me had lied to him about being pregnant got 3 month then said she miscarried so of course he had his doubts but I was right and now we have raised 2 beautiful young men together. They are now 14 and soon to be 11 years old. We got married when they were 5 and 3 years old. We have dealt with it all from ex's to racism yet we still remain together. I can't say it has been easy by any means necessary but it has been so worth it. It truly takes STRENGTH IN A MARRIAGE to survive whatever life throws your way. I feel like because we went through so much in the beginning and we still made it to the alter so I feel there is nothing we can't get through....well let me take that back because I REFUSE to be with another cheater willingly. I did that before and promised myself never again because it made me feel low so we can make it through anything except infidelity. I know that the strength we have don't come from us it comes from God and without him your marriage is as weak as they come. So my advice to you is stay prayed up, communicate, love on one another and remember that God didn't create us to be unhappy he wants us to LOVE and the best feeling in the world is knowing the strength of your marriage because that alone will make everything else fall in place.              




 Remember Love is Kind - Love always SunShyne B.